28th November 2008

Too much time on banankin.info ?

Hey, just wondering if there is such a thing as spending too much time surfing adult websites? I surf banankin.info about 2 times per week and my gf says its way too much! Is she right?

This post was submitted by Anonymous.

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27th November 2008

Elena’s Model Sites is a Scam


Both of these sites are full of women trying to scam men from north america. Stay away! I was contacted by a bunch of amazing looking (and sounding) women..but after an ee-amil or 2, they ALL wanted me to send money for plane tickets etc!

Be very carefull on that site!

This post was submitted by Anonymous.

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27th November 2008

Internet Dating Scams from Africa

OMG-A beautiful woman on Match.com sent me a message saying they found me “so” interesting. Said they were getting off Match and gave me their personal email. I am a lesbian and was looking for other women and this woman was gorgeous! She even left me a link to her webpage to “learn more about her” because she owned an Antiques store in Bellville, GA. When I visited the webpage there were believable photos of an old antique store in what looked to be Geogia. There were pages upon pages of the merchandise as well as more photos of her. She claimed to be in Africa buying antiques for the store but would be back in state in 4 days. We emailed a few times and she told me she lost her lover to cancer and “Michelle” died and left her heartbroken and she has love noone since then…until of course she saw and spoke to me. She had horrible grammar and her mail was hard to follow at times but then at times, I’d get these beautifully crafted statements which were obviously copied. In the end, she claimed to be still in Africa and Customs was giving her a hard time to ship her items back and threatened to seize if she did not get rest of money. She claims to have had a son who was back in Georgia with her ill sister and she need about $2000 to get the merchandise home so that she could see her son and me before Thanksgiving. After researching her and the address of the store on her webpage, they did not exist and I realized this was a fraud. It almost got me because, the web page with the store and stuff seemed quite believable and she was very care about how she asked for the money of course professed a deep deep love for me after a few days. Anyway, I say this to say they are getting better and better in their scams! BE CAREFUL!

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25th November 2008

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      25th November 2008

      When to end a relationship

      You are stuck at a crossroads in your current relationship…on average you would rate it a 7/10. Its not a “bad relationship”, nor is it a really good relationship. Maybe the intimacy is great, but something is still lacking. It’s time to determine when or if you should end the relationship.

      This is a daunting task and fortunately a few authors have written books on the subject. I’m sure you can find those in the above book store.

      To save you a bit of money, and hours of reading, here are the main themes I found on a website:

      1.If “God” or some “divine being” told you it was OK to leave your relationship, would you feel relieved that you could finally leave?
      - If your religion is the only reason you’re still together, your relationship is already long dead. Drop the self-torturing beliefs and choose happiness. Living together physically but not in your heart isn’t going to fool any divine being anyway, nor is it likely to fool anyone else around you. Leave the hypocrisy behind, and take off.

      2.Are you able to get your needs met in the relationship without too much difficulty?
      - If it takes too much effort to get your needs met, then your relationship is doing you more harm than good. Leave.

      3.Do you genuinely like your partner, and does your partner seem to genuinely like you?
      -If you don’t mutually like each other, you don’t belong together.

      4.Do you feel a unique sexual attraction to your partner?
      -If there’s no spark, there’s no point in staying.

      5.Does your partner exhibit any behavior that makes the relationship too difficult for you to stay in, and do you find your partner is either unwilling or incapable of changing?
      - Results matter far more than intentions. If your partner behaves in a way that’s intolerable to you, then permanent change is a must, or you need to leave. Example: “Quit smoking for good in 30 days, or I’m gone.” Trying to tolerate the intolerable will only erode your self-esteem, and you’ll see yourself as stronger in the past than in the present.

      6.Do you see yourself when you look in your partner’s eyes?
      -A metaphor… if you don’t sense a strong compatibility with your partner, you’re better off with someone else.

      7.Do you and your partner each respect each other as individuals?
      -No mutual respect = time to leave.

      8.Does your partner serve as an important resource for you in a way that you care about?
      -If your partner does little to enhance your life and you wouldn’t lose anything important to you by leaving, then leave. You’ll break even by being on your own and gain tremendously by finding someone else who is a resource to you.

      9.Does your relationship have the demonstrated capacity for forgiveness?
      -If you can’t forgive each other’s transgressions, then resentment will gradually replace love. Leave.

      10.Do you and your partner have fun together?
      -A relationship that’s no fun is dead. Leave.

      11.Do you and your partner have mutual goals and dreams for your future together?
      -If you aren’t planning to spend your future together, something’s terribly wrong. Take off.

      I found these questions to be very helpful to me when I was ending my latest relationship. I thought I would share them with everyone, in hopes they help you too!

      Amber R


      This post was submitted by Amber R.

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      24th November 2008

      Tips for those guys who are new to relationships

      Written for GUYS from a Girl…So listen Up! lol

      If you really like a girl flirt with her! Trust me on this one, don’t lead her on for too long. Remember it’s not a game if you don’t ask her out relatively soon after you flirt. Otherwise, if you tease for too long,
      she’ll second guess your sweet gesture.

      2. Hygiene!!!
      Grease is gross! Wash your hair at least every 2 days. Always carry a pack of gum (or an emergency piece in the change compartment of your wallet), if you run into her she shouldn’t have to make up an excuse for your horrible breath.

      3. Be brave!!!
      Girls aren’t into a shy guy that appears to need protection, we want you to make the first move.

      4. When you’re asking us out:
      Don’t ask us out through a friend!! That is so lame. So is facebook, msn, nexopia, etc. FACE TO FACE boys!! That way she’ll know it’s not some gay joke. If you joking…DON’T! No one deserves that, you definitely would want that done to you. People will find out and no one wants to date a bully.

      5. Smell Good

      6. Look her in the eyes

      7. Be yourself, if you don’t act like yourself you could find yourself in an awkward position.

      8. Compliment

      9. Don’t agree with everything she says.

      10. If you ask her out don’t avoid her. My friends last boyfriend did that and she broke up with him after 3 days!!

      11. Don’t constantly talk about yourself.

      12. Don’t play hard to get, thats for the girls to do

      13. Give her some space. Don’t be clingy!

      14. Talk to her with sympathy, humor, truth all that …

      15. Don’t Lie! you will be found out eventually.

      16. SMILE! Have fun, and all will go well.

      This post was submitted by -A.

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      21st November 2008

      First Date Etiquette

      I have had many first dates with many guys, here are my list of first date etiquette:

      1. Be puntual. don’t be late to pick up or meet your date.
      2. grab some sugar or caffine before the date to ensure you are wide awake and are full of energy! Nobody like someone about to fall asleep!
      3. Be entertaining! Crack jokes, keep a conversation going. Avoid the dreaded Dead Air Space!!
      4. Engage your partners conversation, feed off of it and add to it. Laugh at thier jokes, and ask questions that go beyond Yes or No answers
      5.Be Yourself! nothing worse than a date who acts one way with thier friends and another way when are with you.
      6. Be confident! They are interested in YOU, obviously they like what they see…sell it!
      7. Try and be unique on your date. A movie is not a good place to talk and get to know someone. Plus, it angers the people aroud you. Choose a first date that shows your personality a bit.
      8. Contribute to 50% of the conversation. Not much more.. no one likes a blabber-mouth that doesn’t shut up…. or someone who can’t speak at all
      9. Be safe! especially if your meeting an online match for the first time.

      DO NOT:
      1. Be late. This shows you don’t really care about the date and have other things that are more important
      2. be the only talker! You are on this date to learn about them, not promte yourself
      3. Ask personal questions right off the start… wait till you are both comfortable after a few dates
      4. talk about past relationships all night. no one cares. and previous relationships are seen as a threat.
      5. have poor manners at the dinner table or elsewhere.
      6. talk on your cell phone….voice mail was invented for a reason people!!!
      7. Don’t get drunk… unless its done together. Nothing more akward than a drunk date that you have to take care of.
      8. try to be someone different than yourself. If you lie, you will be found out and its all over!

      Keep these in mind on your next date, and I can assure you, you will have a second!



      This post was submitted by Alexis.

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      21st November 2008

      How to Flirt, how to tell if they are flirting

      Flirting is the best part of a relationship, and overwhelmingly exciting just before a new relationship. Here are some simple rules I found to keep in mind when you’re flirting with some one, and how to know if they are flirting with you:

      Eye Contact

      -If the pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained things are going well!!
      -Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow is a sign they are flirting
      -Winking! this is always playful!
      -Rapid eye movement and blinking = they can’t get enough of you
      -Eye contact that is held longer than usual… Men usually look away after about 1 sec.

      Lips and Hair signals:

      -Playing with hair (stroking or toying motion)
      -Eye contact while they are playing with thier hair= pretending its you touching them
      -If they touch your hair at any time
      -Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing
      -Lip licking
      -Puckering lips or blowin you a simulated kiss form
      -Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue

      Body Language

      -The displaying or thrusting of chest or breasts outwards while making eye contact (Warning! Guys, don’t look down at what is presented..its a test)
      -Holding eye contact while doing something else = they are imagining your doing it with them
      -Leaning into a conversation…facing towards you and into you means they are fully concentrated on you
      -Open legged posture facing you (guys are relaxed with you, and subcanciously drawing a girls eye to the genitals)

      Spoken Hints:

      -Their manerism (tone and speed of conversation) suddenly mimics your own
      -laughing at every little joke (no matter how bad)
      -Questioning tone of your voice (“why did you say it like that?”) means they want further information
      -Attention is given to you, despite who is around you

      Have Fun! That’s what flirting is all about!

      This post was submitted by david.

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      21st November 2008

      Please don’t mislead guys

      Ok, I just want to say, please don’t mislead us. If you don’t like us “that way” just let us know. I personally have had many bad experiences like this. Because girls would be overly afectionate towords me (kiss me on the cheek, sit on my lap and the like) but apon asking them out they tell me they don’t like me “like that” and would compleatly stop talking to me. I let two women that liked me, and were great matches for me go, because I wasn’t sure if they liked me or not and I didn’t wana destroy the good friendships i had with them if they did not..

      So if you are one of those “touchy feely” types, please just let us know before hand. We are bad a reading signals in the firstplace don’t make it more confuseing for us please, and thank you for reading.

      This post was submitted by david.

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      21st November 2008

      Mixed Signals/Playing Hard to get is a total turnoff

      As is often mentioned much of dating or attempts at dating turns into one side or the other attempting to figure out their intentions.

      Guys who know what they want are not desperate, not going settle for much less then sought out for, especially if they’ve been successful with certain girls in the past; therefore if you play hard to get like has been done to me all to often usually we will just move on.

      I am not referring to the girl “putting out”, just dating in general. Anotherwards you like a guy a lot, but want to make him chase you a bit. He might be willing to briefly; however after a while he will become suspicious of things such as…

      1)Are you actually single
      2)Are you interested
      3)Is he just a 2nd or 3rd choice so you only act interested when you feel insecure about #1 working out.
      4)What are your overall intentions

      Remember guys have feelings too. The macho act some of these so-called badboys is just that “an act”. Those guys often turnout to be the most insecure. Its a main reason most relationships do not last. As mentioned here several times, many guys who do have that intial line of bs that draws females in t/o to be nothing like they sold themselves as…meanwhile the guys that comeoff too nice, gooney, creepy, etc…often turnout to be the best lovers, most secure in the longterm.

      This post was submitted by Jared.

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