19th October 2011

Ashley Madison Tips Testimonials or Stories

Hey there,

I am new to Ashley Madison (giving it a try for the first time) and was wondering if anyone out there can share their Ashley Madison Tips, Ashley Madison Stories or Ashley Madison Testimonials?

Anything you can ad would be sure to help me out. I want to be one the “good guys” on Ashley Madison.



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25th November 2008

When to end a relationship

You are stuck at a crossroads in your current relationship…on average you would rate it a 7/10. Its not a “bad relationship”, nor is it a really good relationship. Maybe the intimacy is great, but something is still lacking. It’s time to determine when or if you should end the relationship.

This is a daunting task and fortunately a few authors have written books on the subject. I’m sure you can find those in the above book store.

To save you a bit of money, and hours of reading, here are the main themes I found on a website:

1.If “God” or some “divine being” told you it was OK to leave your relationship, would you feel relieved that you could finally leave?
- If your religion is the only reason you’re still together, your relationship is already long dead. Drop the self-torturing beliefs and choose happiness. Living together physically but not in your heart isn’t going to fool any divine being anyway, nor is it likely to fool anyone else around you. Leave the hypocrisy behind, and take off.

2.Are you able to get your needs met in the relationship without too much difficulty?
- If it takes too much effort to get your needs met, then your relationship is doing you more harm than good. Leave.

3.Do you genuinely like your partner, and does your partner seem to genuinely like you?
-If you don’t mutually like each other, you don’t belong together.

4.Do you feel a unique sexual attraction to your partner?
-If there’s no spark, there’s no point in staying.

5.Does your partner exhibit any behavior that makes the relationship too difficult for you to stay in, and do you find your partner is either unwilling or incapable of changing?
- Results matter far more than intentions. If your partner behaves in a way that’s intolerable to you, then permanent change is a must, or you need to leave. Example: “Quit smoking for good in 30 days, or I’m gone.” Trying to tolerate the intolerable will only erode your self-esteem, and you’ll see yourself as stronger in the past than in the present.

6.Do you see yourself when you look in your partner’s eyes?
-A metaphor… if you don’t sense a strong compatibility with your partner, you’re better off with someone else.

7.Do you and your partner each respect each other as individuals?
-No mutual respect = time to leave.

8.Does your partner serve as an important resource for you in a way that you care about?
-If your partner does little to enhance your life and you wouldn’t lose anything important to you by leaving, then leave. You’ll break even by being on your own and gain tremendously by finding someone else who is a resource to you.

9.Does your relationship have the demonstrated capacity for forgiveness?
-If you can’t forgive each other’s transgressions, then resentment will gradually replace love. Leave.

10.Do you and your partner have fun together?
-A relationship that’s no fun is dead. Leave.

11.Do you and your partner have mutual goals and dreams for your future together?
-If you aren’t planning to spend your future together, something’s terribly wrong. Take off.

I found these questions to be very helpful to me when I was ending my latest relationship. I thought I would share them with everyone, in hopes they help you too!

Amber R

source:http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/08/how-to-decide-when-to-end-a-long-term-relationship/


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21st November 2008

First Date Etiquette

I have had many first dates with many guys, here are my list of first date etiquette:

1. Be puntual. don’t be late to pick up or meet your date.
2. grab some sugar or caffine before the date to ensure you are wide awake and are full of energy! Nobody like someone about to fall asleep!
3. Be entertaining! Crack jokes, keep a conversation going. Avoid the dreaded Dead Air Space!!
4. Engage your partners conversation, feed off of it and add to it. Laugh at thier jokes, and ask questions that go beyond Yes or No answers
5.Be Yourself! nothing worse than a date who acts one way with thier friends and another way when are with you.
6. Be confident! They are interested in YOU, obviously they like what they see…sell it!
7. Try and be unique on your date. A movie is not a good place to talk and get to know someone. Plus, it angers the people aroud you. Choose a first date that shows your personality a bit.
8. Contribute to 50% of the conversation. Not much more.. no one likes a blabber-mouth that doesn’t shut up…. or someone who can’t speak at all
9. Be safe! especially if your meeting an online match for the first time.

DO NOT:
1. Be late. This shows you don’t really care about the date and have other things that are more important
2. be the only talker! You are on this date to learn about them, not promte yourself
3. Ask personal questions right off the start… wait till you are both comfortable after a few dates
4. talk about past relationships all night. no one cares. and previous relationships are seen as a threat.
5. have poor manners at the dinner table or elsewhere.
6. talk on your cell phone….voice mail was invented for a reason people!!!
7. Don’t get drunk… unless its done together. Nothing more akward than a drunk date that you have to take care of.
8. try to be someone different than yourself. If you lie, you will be found out and its all over!

Keep these in mind on your next date, and I can assure you, you will have a second!

Thanks,

Alexis


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